← HaloaNotes on dating,
Notes on dating,
attention and silence.
Short essays on what dating apps do to our time, why too much choice makes us unhappy, and what the research says about how real relationships actually begin.
Your checklist of what you want is always wrong.
In How Not to Die Alone, Logan Ury argues your "type" is more wall than compass. The things we actually want we never spot on a first swipe.
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Your time is sold. That's why dating feels hollow.
Dating apps don't earn from your happiness, they earn from your scrolling thumb. What that means for who you meet, and why.
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Why three is enough.
Barry Schwartz called it the paradox of choice. More options, less enjoyment. A short read, and what we do with it.
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